Best friends have always been more than just friends—they’re like family. They’re the people who understand our quirks, make us laugh so hard we cry, and stand by us through thick and thin. Back in the ’90s, BFFs were your partners in crime for late-night sleepovers, marathon phone calls, and those unforgettable matching outfits. While the core of these relationships hasn’t changed, the way we experience them certainly has. Let’s explore 11 ways BFF dynamics have evolved from the ’90s to today.
- BFF Fights
In the ’90s, disagreements with your BFF typically revolved around minor issues, like forgetting to feed their Tamagotchi or accidentally scratching a beloved CD. These little tiffs felt monumental but were quickly forgiven with a laugh or a hug.
Today, disagreements have taken on a different form. Instead of direct, face-to-face arguments, passive-aggressive tactics like “liking” a comment but ignoring a message, or a pointed remark on Instagram have become the norm. The medium may have changed, but the emotional impact remains just as powerful. - Making Up After Arguments
In the ’90s, apologies came in the form of handwritten notes covered with doodles and heartfelt words like “LYLAS” (Love You Like a Sister). These notes were keepsakes, symbols of reconciliation and friendship reborn.
Today, a peace offering often means an overpriced Starbucks drink or a casual selfie together posted on social media. With each like or comment, it’s clear to everyone that all is forgiven. The handwritten notes may have faded away, but the relief and joy in rekindling that bond remain the same. - Friday Night Fun
In the ’90s, Friday nights meant going to the mall with your BFF. You’d try on glittery accessories, snack on pretzels, and maybe even sneak into an R-rated movie if you were daring enough.
Today, Friday nights are more likely spent on the couch, streaming Netflix with takeout and a glass of wine. The setting has changed from bustling malls to cozy living rooms, but that sacred time spent with your BFF is still the highlight of the week. - Playing the Wingwoman
In the ’90s, “crushes” were handled with a cootie catcher (a folded paper fortune teller) and staged hallway encounters. Your BFF was there to create the magic moments, orchestrating “chance” meetings with your crush.
Now, wingwoman skills have gone digital. With just a name, your BFF can find a crush’s entire online presence in minutes. From cootie catchers to social media sleuthing, the best friend wingwoman role has evolved but remains essential. - Squad Goals
In the ’90s, forming a squad was all about finding friends who matched the Spice Girls’ vibe—Posh, Scary, Sporty, or Baby. You needed the whole crew to feel complete.
Today, you don’t need a whole group to feel fulfilled. One loyal BFF is enough to belt out a karaoke “Single Ladies” routine in your living room. The true squad has shifted from a group to a single close friend, and the bond is stronger than ever. - Gossip Sessions
In the ’90s, gossip centered around school drama—who wore the same scrunchie, who stole the last piece of candy. The juicier the gossip, the better the laughs.
Today, gossip has shifted to include spoilers of binge-worthy shows, cryptic social media posts, and online mysteries. Social media adds a twist, turning the classic gossip session into an analysis of cryptic captions and emoji combinations. - Handling Heartbreak
In the ’90s, getting over a heartbreak involved comforting treats like Cosmic Brownies or Dunkaroos shared with your BFF, and maybe some venting. It was simple yet comforting.
Now, heartbreak therapy means spa days, a bottle of wine, and a night out to blow off steam. No matter the era, your BFF remains the ultimate support system when it comes to mending a broken heart. - Staying Connected
In the ’90s, keeping in touch required calling landlines, sometimes navigating awkward conversations with each other’s parents first. Handwritten notes were left in lockers, and weekly letters were a common practice.
Today, staying connected is instant. Texts, voice notes, and emojis are exchanged in seconds, and video calls replace sleepovers. Even on busy days, TikTok duets or Snap streaks keep the laughter alive across any distance. - Getting Into Mischief
Mischief in the ’90s included prank calls, Ding Dong Ditch, or toilet-papering a neighbor’s yard. The trouble was innocent and always brought tons of laughter.
Now, mischievous BFFs might pull off more subtle stunts, like sneaking out for a long lunch break or sharing memes during work hours. The form of mischief may be more subdued, but the thrill of doing something a bit daring with your bestie is still there. - Defending Each Other
In the ’90s, playground confrontations were met head-on, often with a loud, direct defense. Your BFF had your back, and everyone knew it.
Today, defending each other has moved online. If someone tries to shade you, your BFF is ready with supportive photos, witty captions, and inside jokes. Public loyalty is still shown, just with digital flair. - Showing Off the Bond
Friendship bracelets in the ’90s were the ultimate badge of BFF love. Hours spent braiding them were acts of dedication, and they symbolized unbreakable bonds.
Today, matching tattoos, shared social media bios, or playful status updates on Facebook have taken over. Whether it’s bracelets or ink, BFFs continue to celebrate their connection with pride.
Friendship Then and Now—Same Love, Different Times
While the way we interact with our BFFs has evolved, the heart of the bond remains unaltered. From digital pets and mall adventures in the ’90s to Starbucks selfies and cozy Netflix nights today, best friends make every experience sweeter. No matter the decade, best friends are those rare people who make the journey of life endlessly better. Here’s to the BFFs who’ve stood by us through it all, proving that true friendship is truly timeless. Cheers to them!